Feelings that you might not think of

Sometimes it’s hard to know exactly what you’re feeling, or to put a label to it.  While it’s not in any way necessary to label every feeling for Feeling Healing to work, it can help you to keep track of your progress if you can put a name to each experience as you’re going through the layers.

Here are some ideas for less obvious feeling labels that can help:  Overwhelmed, stuck, disorganized, shocked, confused*, resistant.  These are not what we normally think of as emotions — mad, sad, glad, etc. — but they are physical experiences, so Feeling Healing works on them.

*And yes, confusion is a mental state, but at least for me, it results in physical sensations, sometimes only in my head, but that’s physical, too.

Now, once you clear one of these, you may find an emotion under it.  For example, once you clear some resistance you may find that you were resistant because you were scared.

So again, look for the layers.

You can even be in a state where the best you can do for a description is something like “totally messed up.” Run the process on that, and then see how you feel.  Look for another layer.  And you may not find one. You may be just fine after one cycle.

Again, labeling feelings is not necessary for this to work.  It’s merely something that can help you to focus.  If you’re getting results without labeling anything you can ignore this whole discussion.

Wanting

Wanting is in a class by itself.  It is a feeling, because we experience it physically, as opposed to an idea which exists only in the mind, and it’s also different from things like resistance and confusion because it’s another, deeper, level.  Wanting — and not wanting — are where the rest of our unpleasant experiences come from.

Zen teachings say that we need to strive for a state of “desirelessness” for this reason. Although if you ask me, once you start striving you’ve kind of missed the boat on the whole desirelessness thing. But the point is that wanting is the result of an experience of lack, and vice versa.

So if you run Feeling Healing on wanting relief, or wanting peace, or wanting to win, or wanting whatever is stressing you to go away, you will feel more peaceful.

Here are some more or less primary things we get stuck wanting (not an exclusive list): survival, safety, love, sex, connection, approval, security, peace, control, to win.

If you explore wanting, after awhile you’ll begin to notice that for every thing you’re wanting, you’re also wanting the opposite. So if you feel that somebody is trying to control you and you’re not wanting them to control you, by definition you’re also wanting to control them.

Then, also take a look and see if there’s some wanting to be controlled. Because the only reason we care how others are being or acting is that we think they’re making us feel what we feel. This is fundamentally impossible — although it’s also a very difficult aspect of the Illusion to pierce. Humanity has been conditioned for thousands of years to believe that we are victims of whatever’s going on around us.

From another angle, sometimes I find that I’m wanting to be controlled by somebody because in my illusion I think that’ll make them responsible for what I do or feel, or don’t do. This is nonsense of course, but it’s a misconception that was formed very early in life, probably in infancy. And we all have our own versions of these.

Oh, and if what you’re wanting is a brand new 50″ TV, or a Ferrari F40, Feeling Healing will work on that, too. It may be useful to check and see if there’s anything beneath that, since we frequently use objects in a vain attempt to fill whatever internal lack we experience.